The term best friend and I haven’t always gotten along. I used to give that title to people who didn’t feel the same way or who only gave me crumbs in our friendship. I was more invested in being their best friend than they were in being mine.
But now, I have my core four—a solid group of best friends who truly see me, value me, and return the love I give. When I’m with them, I heal bit by bit. I no longer have to wonder if I’m anyone’s best friend—I know I am, and that’s refreshing.
I tell them how much they mean to me as often as I can—why wouldn’t I? If you love your people, tell them.
I recently saw a video asking, Why are we friends? It made me take it a step further: Why are we best friends? So, I asked my best friends. Here’s what they said.
Sean – 21 Years of Friendship
“We’ve always enjoyed each other’s company and made an effort to stay connected after high school and shortly after starting Youth Changing the World. Together, our shared background, humor, and values have kept us close. Over the years, our lives have become more intertwined, especially with you being a part of my kids’ lives.”
Eric – 11 Years of Friendship
“We always have fun, whether we’re dancing, watching TV, or just hanging out. We share the same taste in things, but more importantly, we both look for the good in the world. You encourage me when I need it, and I hope I do the same for you. You show up—not just when I ask, but when I don’t even know I need you. That’s love, and that’s why you’re my best friend.”
Kira – 9 Years of Friendship
“Our bond is unique. I’ve had many friends, but our friendship stands out. You’re honest, real, and completely yourself with me, which makes me feel safe to be myself too. Your advice, love, and care mean everything to me.”
Kerry – 4+ Years of Friendship
“Being best friends with you just makes sense. Our friendship is effortless yet deep, and that balance is rare. You support me unconditionally but also push me to be better. We get each other in a way not many people do, and we lift each other up.”
Why They’re My People
Asking this question gave me clarity. My best friends see me, understand me, and love me—on my best and worst days. They aren’t afraid to give me tough love when I need it, but they’re also the first to remind me that it’s okay not to be okay. Most importantly, they let me be me.
And that’s a privilege—not just to have one best friend that does that for me but four.
Why Best Friends Matter
Friendship isn’t just about shared experiences—it’s about having people who lift you up, push you to grow, and love you for exactly who you are. If you have best friends like that, cherish them. Let them know how much they mean to you. And if you don’t, keep looking—because the right friends are out there, ready to love you just as you are.
