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How Situationships Defy Traditional Dating Standards

Recently, my close friend told me that they’re in a situationship. I had heard of situationships but was curious to understand why they used that label.

They told me, “We’re not ‘together-together,’ but we act like it. We talk every day, we hook up, and we hang out like a couple, but we don’t have a title. We haven’t had ‘the talk,’ and I don’t know if we ever will.”

On the outside, my friend’s connection looked like a relationship — consistent time together, emotional investment, and even jealousy. But from their perspective, the relationship wasn’t defined. The lack of definition stuck with me.

Situationships can feel like dating without the pressure or like a relationship without the clarity. They often involve emotional intimacy, regular communication, and sometimes even exclusivity, but without official titles or long-term plans. For some, a situationship means freedom. For others, a situationship is nothing but a confusing jumble of emotional labour.

The term “situationship” isn’t just a buzzword floating around social media — it also reflects a significant cultural shift in how we approach love, intimacy, and connection in a digital, emotionally cautious generation.

Flexibility Without the Commitment

At their best, situationships can provide low-pressure spaces to explore feelings, companionship, and intimacy. For people who want to heal or focus on personal growth or for those who aren’t ready for full-blown commitment, these dynamics can feel refreshing.

Situationships can also empower those who don’t subscribe to traditional dating timelines — the months-long “talking stage” or weekend flings that work perfectly around busy schedules. For someone juggling school, work, and personal goals, situationships can feel like soft compromises. You have intimacy without the additional pressure of constantly showing up as a “perfect” partner.

Others use situationships as gentle re-entries into the dating world after heartbreak. These connections aren’t about rushing into love again; they’re about rediscovering intimacy — even if it’s only temporary. That emotional buffer is exactly what some people need to move on from past relationships without rushing into serious commitments too soon.

When Emotional Whiplash Sets In

As quickly as emotions run high in situationships, they begin to crash. No matter how “chill” partners initially feel, emotions almost always creep into situationships. And when partners in a situationship catch feelings, the connection isn’t so “chill” anymore.

What begins as a fling — no expectations and no strings — slowly turns into late-night overthinking, double-texting, re-reading old messages, and trying to figure out what changed. One moment, you’re doing things that feel so relationship-coded, but the next, you’re spiralling because your situationship didn’t respond to your message for six hours and inexplicably posted someone else on their story.

With every mixed signal, the line between “We’re just vibing” and “Why do I feel like I’m being played?” blurs. You try to stay cool and remind yourself that your connection isn’t serious, but your heart doesn’t get the memo.

The hardest part of a situationship is the disconnect between your logic and your emotions. You know that you’re not technically “together,” but your emotions don’t operate on technicalities. You care. You’re invested in this person. You’ve even imagined what it’d be like if they did commit. But that commitment isn’t your reality.

How Culture Reflects the Shift Toward Situationships

Situationships have even taken over pop culture. We hear about them in SZA’s longing lyrics and the heartbreak behind Brent Faiyaz’s nonchalance. On TikTok, we even see people ask what certain signs mean for their situationships. And on TV, our favourite characters no longer find themselves in solid relationships. They have complicated love lives and spend plenty of time “figuring out” their situationships.

This pop culture dynamic reflects real life. We crave connection, but vulnerability terrifies us. We run towards situationships because the lack of commitment feels safe and freeing, but like our favourite pop culture icons, we eventually discover how much situationships hurt.

Situationships aren’t going anywhere. They speak to a generation that’s unlearning traditional dating timelines and embracing fluidity in their partnerships. But situationships need to involve more honesty — with ourselves and with each other. The future of love might not involve strict labels, but it should stem from intention. If we choose to navigate the “gray areas” of love, then we need more communication, not less. We should have more boundaries, more check-ins, and more courage to ask our partners what they want out of their relationships. All forms of love merit clarity, and we deserve it too.

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