‘Please don’t let me die’ – the plea of a first time mum to her doctors before CS

The night her water broke, her only expectation was to go to the hospital, deliver in the shortest possible time and return home with her baby.

Unfortunately for Lorie, her delivery did not go as expected.

“I went to the ward around 11:30 pm, and then throughout the night, doctors came to attend to me but no show. So around 6 am, the doctor came and said he wants to check how many centimetres I had dilated… They wheeled me to the ward and introduced me to the nurses and said I was four centimetres dilated.

In an interview that captured the daily fears of women as they prepare for the surgeon’s knife during labour, she said long after her water broke, she had not dilated well enough to allow vaginal delivery.

“They put a drip and a machine on me to check the baby’s heartbeat. About three hours later, they came to check again, and I had dilated only a centimetre. And the doctor said; ideally, I was supposed to dilate a centimetre each hour. So she said they had to induce me, and I agreed. That was when they injected some medicine into my drip. And at this point, my pain went from 0 to 100.”

Lorie

After all attempts failed, Lorie said she was weak. She said a nurse discovered the reading on the machine was abnormal and then called the doctor.

Her fears had intensified. Her biggest fear of going through a Caesarian Section (CS) was starring at her in the face.

The doctor, after a careful assessment of the machine, said she had to be wheeled to the theatre for an emergency CS.

According to Lorie, the doctor explained it was necessary to save both mother and child since the heartbeat of the baby was fluctuating, a condition the health experts attributed to fetal distress.

“All I saw was they wheeled me to another floor. I was very weak, dizzy, and I hadn’t eaten… The Anaesthesiologist came to prep me ahead of what was going to happen. At this point, I just started crying. I was crying because I didn’t know what was going on and what was happening to me,” Lorie told Dromo baby, an Instagram page dedicated to telling the Ghanaian stories surrounding pregnancy, child-birth and parenting.

With tears swelling up in her eyes, Lorie said, “I was just feeling sorry for myself. I was in so much pain. The labour was delaying. It was dragging. I was feeling very sad for myself”.

To make matters worse for her, no family members were allowed into the theatre she found herself. This meant her husband, who was with her, was barred from walking into the theatre with her.

The sight of the surgery equipment and several health professionals lined up in the theatre sent panic waves down the spine of the heavily pregnant Lorie.

“I broke down again and started crying. Some of the nurses came to me and said everything was going to be okay. That calmed me down a little bit,” she said with tears in her eyes.

The Anaesthesiologist administered the anaesthesia, but it failed to work on her. She said the surgeon then instructed the Anaesthesiologist to administer the anaesthesia.

“I asked what G.A was, and they said general anaesthesia. I asked what does that one do, and they said it would make me sleep and then they do the operation. I don’t know what came into my head, but immediately they said that all I said was ‘please, don’t let me die. I was screaming that in the theatre and everybody started laughing.”

Lorie continued, “they found it funny, and they found it sad. They asked me why I would think that way, but I told them a friend of mine did surgery. She slept, and she didn’t wake up. I thought that was going to happen to me. I was crying uncontrollably”.

She said a doctor walked up to her, held her hand, and assured her she would come back alive.

The surgery, according to Lorie, started at 8 pm and lasted an hour and fifteen minutes.

Baby admitted to NICU for weeks

Lorie after a successful surgery thought that was the end of her ordeal.

Her baby boy had to be rushed to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU).

“Around 10 pm, my husband quickly came to my ward and assured me everything was going to be okay, and he left because he couldn’t sleepover. That night, I really cried my heart out because I didn’t want to have a CS. I wanted to do it the natural way. I prayed about it, but I got the opposite of everything I prayed against,” she said in a soft tone.

She added, “I really cried that night. I was sad. I was disappointed. I was really traumatized with what I saw in the theatre. I was just sad. I don’t know how to describe it, but I was really sad,” Lorie said as she choked on her tears.

In a rather solemn tone, Lorie shared her second phase of what could best be described as agony.

“Baby was taken to NICU to see if he had some infections. After some days or weeks, he had developed jaundice. So, they put him under the UV light. I’m a new mum, so all these things are new to me. I had to walk down to see my baby and breastfeed him a day after my surgery. I was in so much pain, but I had to do it because the baby had to be fed.”

“I was feeling sad for my baby. My breast milk wasn’t coming because I was stressed. It’s a baby. Baby can’t take drugs, so they had to pass a line to administer the drugs. Almost every day they’re passing a line and pricking baby all over, and he’s just crying, but I can’t do anything about it than to stand there and watch,” Lorie said in a trembling voice.

In the 55 minutes, 51 seconds recorded interview, Lorie dammed a well of emotions as she tried to progress with the show.

After taking a heavy sigh to continue with the interview, she said “after weeks at NICU, they told me my baby was breathing too fast. They run some tests, and they all came negative.

“It’s heartbreaking. Nobody preps you for these things. When you’re going to the hospital to deliver, I wish there would be somebody to tell you that there could be an emergency and they’ll go and cut you. And when they cut you, they’ll take the baby to the NICU. You can stay in the hospital for some weeks but don’t worry…,” Lorie said as she made frantic efforts to hold back her tears.

She described the day she first met her baby in NICU as “love at first sight”. “He was so adorable, and he had full hair, and he was doing the cute baby things. But at that time, I was feeling very emotional and very sad. All I said was awwwwww. I wasn’t happy,” she recounted.

Touching on her support system even after delivery, Lorie said it was and is still strong. She described her husband as “an amazing man” who stood by her throughout her stay at the hospital.

Calls for attitudinal change towards C-Section

The mother of a six-month-old baby boy seized the opportunity to call for an attitudinal change towards Caesarian Sections (CS).

“Some churches even pray against C-Section. That’s really wrong,” she said as she wore a stern look.

While recounting her painful ordeal in the theatre, she said she was shy to admit she had delivered her baby through CS.

According to her, after her delivery, people asked her the method through which she delivered. Each time she mentioned CS, she was told then that was not childbirth.

She shamefully narrated an incident where she lied to a Mobile Money agent that she delivered the natural way.

“For weeks, I was actually ashamed to say I went through CS. There was this time I had to go and do mobile m. The lady said she could tell I had delivered not long ago. I said, yes. Then she asked if I pushed. I said, yeah. I lied. Right after that, I berated myself and asked what did I just do?

“Why am I ashamed of the Caesarian Section? I need to embrace it because that saved my life,” she continued.

Lorie believes more education needs to be done about CS admitting she was never educated on the surgical procedure throughout her ante-natal classes.

 

 

16 Comments
  1. Abdul+Basit says

    Very educative piece of information. Well done

  2. Anonymous says

    My wife just gone through what she just narrated and I strongly believe we should educate people on CS since is not demonic and it saves life

  3. Daryl Bosu says

    A really informative, yet emotional piece. Well narrated. Very instructive. Time for education

  4. Anonymous says

    CS or taking epidural does not make anyine less of a woman its high time people stop this thing of making others fewla CS is bad

  5. Anonymous says

    All child birth are normal. Either Viginal or CS all that matters is mum and child alive.

  6. Anonymous says

    Good she is talking out. There is nothing wrong with CS. Some hospital will have explained to her, her choices and some experienced Drs will not encourage pregnant women of 35 years and above to have vaginal delivery. Planned CS is safe because a lot of tests, examinations and monitoring will be done before the surgery date. Women should be encouraged to opt for CS if they can afford it.

  7. Anonymous says

    Why on earth should we going asking a new mother how she birth her baby?

    1. Anonymous says

      Hmm ask again.

  8. Anonymous says

    Why must people and women to be precise, ask a new mom how the baby was delivered. Gosh

  9. Anonymous says

    Hmm my story. Everything I’m reading is like something that was written about me and my baby. I had no complication throughout my pregnancy but after 27hrs of intensive pain with induction, I was rushed to the emergency room for CS. The rest with my baby was another chapter. Seriously I felt terrible to even tell people who asked based on whatever they wanted to know that I had my baby through CS as a first mom hmmm. Seriously I have even vowed to have only 3kids and through CS just to avoid some things.

  10. Anonymous says

    I went through the exact thing. My water broke, i was induced and kt failed. Then i was rushed to theater for an emergency CS. Honestly i was afraid about delivery either vaginal or CS. All i wanted was ro have my babies alive, healthy and string. Thqnk God they didnt go to NICU. The pains were massive cos my anesthesia wore off before the procedure ended. But in all it went well. I read a lot during pregnancy, so though a 1st time mum i had an idea about every procedure and i was determined to endure to see my babies safe. Ive nevee been shy of having CS, nkt even feel sad. I feel very proud i carried my twins and delivered them and I’m doin everything possible within my power to take good care of them despite rhe challenges. CS is never a crime.

  11. Anonymous says

    This woman could have died if not for the intervention of cs.. I don’t know why asofo’s of these days condemned cs.. Which is very bad.

  12. Anonymous says

    Her story is what really happened to me 2 months ago. Am still in shock and tramatised when everbi remember what i go through. After a painfull labor my babys heart beat is going down and i was 7cm. The dr have do CS in order to save my baby. Thank god we are just doing fine

  13. Anonymous says

    Hmmm!My story,but after induction n realise I was still not dilating,I requested for surgery.For my second n third births.

  14. Anonymous says

    Sorry for your ordeal, thank God for your life and the little man, pregnancy and delivery is a different thing and it takes the favour and grace of God be it normal or CS. It’s jux unfortunate you didn’t know much on these issues but I will edge that pregnant women especially first timers ask questions when they visit the hospital, some hospitals don’t do prenantal classes, so its important we ask questions and even read books. The day I was doing push I was still asking the midwives questions.

  15. Anonymous says

    CS is never a curse, I went through it twice and my third will definitely be CS again. You are a strong woman

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