Wise Counsel Only Benefits When Put Into Practice

Who is to blame if something goes wrong?

That is not important. What is important is how things can be put right. Be flexible, air differences, talk them out, and don’t take yourself too seriously. Communicate. If you love your partner as you love yourself, it should not be too difficult to adjust to the marriage relationship and make it a happy one. Respect is not gained by merely ordering someone to respect you. You must earn respect by how you speak and act and by what you are.

 

1. Proverbs 14:29 ”He that is slow to anger is abundant in discernment, but one that is impatient is exalting foolishness.”

If you give yourself time to think, do you not often discover that there’s no good cause to be angry?

 

2. Proverbs 17:27 ”Anyone holding back his sayings  is possessed of knowledge, and a man of discernment is of cool spirit.”

Do you keep your spirit cool, and hold back words that would make your mate’s spirit hot?

 

3. Proverbs 26: 20 ”Where there no wood the fire goes out.”

Can you stop arguing, or must you have the last word?

 

4. Proverbs 10:12 ”Hatred is what stirs up contentions, but love covers over even all transgressions.”

Do you continually rehash old disputes, or do you love your mate enough to put them behind you?

 

5. Proverbs 20:3  ”It is a glory for a man to desist from disputing, but every fool will burst out in it.”

Are you mature enough to be the one to stop?

 

6. Proverbs 10:19 ”In the abundance of words there does not fail to be a transgression, but the one keeping his lips in check is acting discreetly.”

Sometimes when upset we say more than we mean, and we are sorry afterward. Do you guard against this?

 

7. Proverbs 14:9 ”A fool is too arrogant to make amends; upright men know what reconciliation means.”

Are you too proud to make concessions and seek peace in your marriage?

 

8. Proverbs 12:18  ” There exists the one speaking thoughtlessly as with the stabs of a sword, but the tongue of the wise ones is healing.”

Before you speak, do you stop and think what effect your words will have on your mate?

 

9. Proverbs 25:11  ”As with apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it.”

The word that is right at one time may be wrong at another time. Are you perspective as to what is the right word at the right time?

 

10. Ephesians 4:26  ”Let the sun not set with you in a provoked state.” Do you dwell on differences and thereby prolong the misery for both yourself and your mate?