What Questions Do You Ask on First Dates?

Last weekend, I laughed out loud…

…while taking a podcast walk and listening to a This American Life episode, where people shared loaded questions they asked on first dates.

“What do you think of Beyoncé?” is the first-date question that editor Emanuele Berry asks. “It’s a question that tells you how they feel about a powerful Black woman,” she says. “If you feel the need to put her down or say something negative about her, it’s a real turn-off, it’s a red flag, basically.”

A woman named Kelsey asks her dates to name their favorite Tom Hanks movies. Since he’s been in so many different kinds, the question serves as a personality test. (Ed. note: The correct answer is Big.)

And Vivianne in Iowa says, “If your ex walked by right now with their new partner, what would you do?” which is a playful way of asking, how f-ed up was your last relationship?

Funny, right? As for actual questions, I like asking about someone’s top three movies, a book they’ve read recently, or a trip they’d love to take, money no object. They’re not loaded questions but usually kickstart fun conversations.

• Name ideas for firstborn?
• Marriage: yay or nay?

• If number 2 yay….where?

Church

Outdoors

Courthouse

Destination

• What is your biggest fear?
• What are your greatest insecurities?
• What is something you never thought you’d tell anyone?
• What’s your take-home pay?
• Current positive or negative goal weight?
• Exes….how many? And are you still in contact with them?
• What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done?