The Subtle Sign Your Partner Is Emotionally Blackmailing You

Many relationships function on a level that isn’t healthy for either partner, yet each person seems willing to hold onto the relationship at all costs.

Their love for each other and desire to remain in the relationship is stronger than the problems they’re going through.

This can most often be seen with lovers in cases of emotional blackmail.

This is where one person behaves inappropriately within the relationship and then blames the other for the behaviour. The partner receiving all the blame instantly feels guilty and inadequate and wants to try harder to please.

An example of this kind of behaviour could be when a man goes out to pick up a one-night stand and is caught red-handed. Instead of apologizing to his partner and begging for forgiveness, he’ll immediately blame his partner for not being there for him so he had to look elsewhere.

This makes the woman feel as though she’s not good enough, or not doing something right, and she tries to make amends by being a better partner, all the time watching her self-esteem drop lower and lower as she believes she’s not good enough to please her man. This is emotional blackmail and it’s unfair. In this example, the man is refusing to take responsibility for his indiscretion. The woman is accepting the responsibility for the weakness of another person.

There are plenty of other situations where emotional blackmail can exist.

Your partner might make you take responsibility for him or her failing to get ahead in a career. You might find that some couples blame each other for being held back financially for being overweight or for having no friends.

No matter what the issue, emotional blackmail is a major cause of relationship breakdown.

If you believe you’re being emotionally blackmailed by your partner, remember that it’s not your job to take responsibility for another person’s actions and choices.

Your partner made the choice to act a certain way given a certain situation and nothing forced him into doing it except his or her own mind.

It’s important to talk calmly and rationally about the behaviour and find out why your partner believes you’re at fault for his actions. Don’t accept responsibility for his actions.

When both partners in a relationship take responsibility for their own behaviour and actions, it’s much easier to build a strong partnership based on trust and respect.